How long has it been since DDay? A few weeks, months or even a couple of years? The most important thing is that you and your wayward spouse have decided to reconcile because you still love each other and you feel your marriage is worth saving, so you’re going through the whole recovering from an affair process. Yet, despite your husband’s best efforts to make amends, you are still struggling to overcome the hurt and feel like he just does not get it on the level you need him to be on.
The day you learned of your spouse’s affair is the day your heart died. The shock, disappointment, and pain of learning of your spouse’s betrayal is just too much to bear. It hurts like hell to have someone you love so much betray you in such a dastardly way. But where to begin and is healing after an affair even possible?
No other experience can prepare you for the painful emotions you’ll endure after discovering your spouse betrayed you with someone else. It’s not uncommon to be obsessively reviewing the painful memories long after the affair is over. No one else can bear the pain for you, not even your wayward partner. Even if they are truly sorry for what they did and want to make amends, they cannot erase the pain or make it go away.