When you are in the process of recovering from infidelity, it helps to devise a phased and workable plan that you can put into action to survive the infidelity and heal from the pain. Aside from shredding your relationship with and trust in your spouse and your sense of peace, adultery can also be very overwhelming to deal with since you have more going on in your life than just the affair.
Healing from an affair takes time but with a solid plan for surviving infidelity, it can be done. If you are the injured spouse you first need to make yourself stronger by learning how to deal with your negative thoughts and emotions. Next, is for you and your spouse to begin working and healing together. This involves effective communication between you and your spouse. This can prove to be quite challenging because of all the raw feelings and emotions that are present in the relationship at this time. Now, you and your spouse will work on rebuilding a stronger foundation for your marriage.
Dr. Frank Gunzburg’s “How to Survive an Affair” program lays out this process nicely. The program is broken down into three precise phases that are designed to be followed in a specific order. While it is very structured, it does take you by the hand and guide you down this bumpy and uncertain road. The first phase will help both the cheater and the cheated on spouse cope with and regain control of those runaway emotions and negative feelings that are unique to dealing with infidelity.
“You need to stop trying to figure out the other person; you need to be honest about your own thoughts and feelings concerning the affair; and you need to shift your perspective from the outside to the inside, from the external to the internal.”
After getting a handle on your thoughts and emotions, you’re ready to tackle phase two. In this section of the program, the two of you will work together to “identify and resolve key issues.” Since infidelity puts a strain on communication, you’ll also get step-by-step guidance on the best way to communicate with each other.
Once you’ve made it this far, the final phase is going to teach you “how to rebuild and sustain a new, trust-filled partnership.” Here you’ll learn not only how to restore the trust but also how to protect and preserve this brand new, but still fragile relationship.
Whether you’ve just found out about the betrayal or it has been awhile, you need to take action because the longer you wait, the harder it gets and you’ll just be suffering needlessly especially if you are the one that was betrayed. With a program like “How to Survive an Affair,” you don’t need to wait for the other person to get started healing, because it is designed to allow either one of you to start on your own.
Marriage takes work and nurturing, a broken marriage requires even more work and nurturing. But with a solid step-by-step plan or roadmap to guide you, you and your spouse will be able to find your way back to a better place.