It hurts like hell to have someone you love so much betray you. Infidelity is a horrible thing to go through and I would not wish this painful experience on my worse enemy.
It causes a mix of emotions like helplessness, guilt, fear, rage, insecurity and low self-esteem.
When something as negative as infidelity happens in our lives, we tend to beat ourselves up about it time and time again.
Focusing on phrases such as: “That was stupid,” “I am so fat,” “No one loves me,” and a host of other negative statements can easily zap the happiness right out of your life.
Fortunately, this doesn’t have to be permanent. By incorporating positive affirmations for self-esteem issues into your daily life you can turn your negativity around. Affirmations are simply statements or phrases, which focus on the positive rather than the negative.
Here are some easy ways to make affirmations part of your everyday life
1. Affirmations should always be in the present tense. Begin your statements with “I can” “I have” or “I am,” instead of a phrase like “I will” or “I may.”
- Examples of this would be “I have a beautiful body” and “I am so intelligent,” instead of “I will never be so stupid again.”
- Choose statements that focus on the positive attributes you want to encourage, saying them as if you already exhibit that behavior.
2. Address yourself by name when expressing your affirmations. Believe it or not, this does make a big difference. When you say: “I, Jane Doe, am a beautiful person both inside and out,” it makes your affirmation more powerful because you hear the lovely sound of your own name!
- Using your name in the affirmations allows your subconscious to process the words even quicker.
3. Focus on one or two affirmations to start with. Although you possess many positive attributes, it’s best to focus only on one or two when you’re first starting out. If you start with twenty positive affirmations, your subconscious may be overwhelmed or dismiss the deeper meaning.
4. Practice your affirmations as often as possible. Our subconscious mind is more open to suggestions when we first open our eyes in the morning and then again when we’re ready to fall asleep at night.
- The more often you recite your affirmations, the faster you’ll experience lasting changes.
Examples of positive affirmations for self esteem
I keep a positive view of myself
When I think about the person whom I have become, I am filled with joy. I am proud of who I am. I live by my values and I try to make a difference in the lives of others.
Instead of being my own worst critic, I choose to be my greatest cheerleader. I encourage myself with positive thoughts because it is the best thing I can do for my self-image.
When a negative thought tries to creep into my mind, I promptly reject it without giving it time to develop. I protect my self-confidence because the way I see myself affects the way I carry myself and the way others see me as well.
There are things about me that I would like to change, so I work to improve on those areas. In the meantime, I build upon my strengths. I focus on my positive qualities to keep myself motivated.
When I stand in front of a mirror, I automatically point out three beautiful features I love about my body. I let go of the urge to condemn my imperfections and I am wonderfully made to achieve remarkable success.
My inner dialogue is saturated with respect, encouragement, and grace. I speak to myself the way I would speak to someone whom I admire. I refrain from belittling myself in my mind. When I speak to myself and of myself, I do it with positivity.
Today, I choose to believe that who I am is good enough. I guard my heart and my thoughts from the trap of self-condemnation by focusing on the potential stored within me.
Self-Reflection Questions:
1. What do I like about myself?
2. Are my thoughts building up my self-confidence or tearing it down?
3. Why is it important to be my own greatest cheerleader?
Low self-esteem is something that holds us back from living the life we deserve. You can rebuild your confidence and self-esteem with daily affirmations and experience the joy of life you’ve been missing. Try it and you’ll love it!