How long has it been since DDay? A few weeks, months or even a couple of years? The most important thing is that you and your wayward spouse have decided to reconcile because you still love each other and you feel your marriage is worth saving, so you’re going through the whole recovering from an affair process. Yet, despite your husband’s best efforts to make amends, you are still struggling to overcome the hurt and feel like he just does not get it on the level you need him to be on.
It hurts to think that your husband would violate your marriage vows for another woman, but violate it he did. This is not an easy thing to accept and it can be an especially bitter pill to swallow if you were under the impression that your marriage was good. The steps you take after his adultery can mean the difference between healing and rebuilding or growing bitter and resentful as the years go by.
Doing these five things will help you focus on healing and ideally reconciliation with your husband.
The day you learned of your spouse’s affair is the day your heart died. The shock, disappointment, and pain of learning of your spouse’s betrayal is just too much to bear. It hurts like hell to have someone you love so much betray you in such a dastardly way. But where to begin and is healing after an affair even possible?
A marital affair is not confined to physical betrayal only. Emotional adultery is just as common today and cause just as much hurt, pain and heartbreak, so healing and coping after an emotional affair is the same process.
Discovering that your spouse is involved in an emotional affair is a painful thing to deal with.
They have formed a close bond with someone else and this often triggers negative feelings and emotions such as anger, sadness and anxiety, in you.
No other experience can prepare you for the painful emotions you’ll endure after discovering your spouse betrayed you with someone else. It’s not uncommon to be obsessively reviewing the painful memories long after the affair is over. No one else can bear the pain for you, not even your wayward partner. Even if they are truly sorry for what they did and want to make amends, they cannot erase the pain or make it go away.