How Cheating Happens, When You’re Married [Infographic]

As many as one-third of men and one-fifth of women cheat. Luckily, most people seem to tone it down after they get married. For married couples, 22% of men and 14% of women admit to cheating on their spouses. Who are these people who cheat, even after taking their vows of marriage? Is there a way to tell if your spouse is one of them? How does cheating happen? Can a marriage be saved after cheating?

Who’s Doing All This Cheating?

Turns out there are behaviors associated with cheating- like a “tell” in poker, these characteristics are more likely to point to infidelity:

  • children of cheaters
  • sexual narcissists (see below)
  • people unlucky enough to be born with a gene for infidelity
  • well-endowed men have it bad both ways: their wives are more likely to cheat if their penises are large, and they themselves are more likely to stray if their testicles are large

When do Cheaters Cheat?

Blame it on the daily grind. Slogging through the day performing mundane tasks wears us down. That’s why we’re more likely to cheat in the afternoon. The middle of the week is when most people cheat.

Why do Cheaters Cheat?

  • 45% of cheaters claim the trigger for infidelity was their partners’ cell phone addiction.
  • 20% reported it was Facebook that drove them to it.
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How do Cheaters Get Caught?

Forget lipstick on the collar or someone else’s panties left behind…today’s telltale signs come from the world of digital communications.

  • 41% blamed Facebook for exposing their illicit affair.
  • 61% blamed a text message.

Warning Signs of Cheating to Watch Out For in Bed

  1. Someone who feels “entitled” to sex whenever, wherever…no matter how you’re feeling.
  2. Someone who is a receiver, but not a giver of oral sex.
  3. Someone who manipulates you into doing something you don’t want.
  4. Someone who believes his or her skills in bed deserve a Pulitzer Prize.

Take a look at the infographic below and share your thoughts in the comments.

Is There Hope After Cheating?

When cheating strikes a marriage, what are the survival rates? You many think all hope is lost, but statistics tell us otherwise. Almost a third of all marriages survive cheating, which is enough to give anyone hope! Even when a cheater is caught red-handed, the marriage can survive. It’s not easy, but if couples do just a few things, they can save the marriage.


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3. “The Weird Sign Your Partner’s More Likely to Cheat” Gueren, C. 2013 November 19.
4. “Sexual narcissism and infidelity in early marriage.” McNulty,JK, Widman, L. 2014 April 3.
5. “More People are Using Facebook to Cheat on Their Partners” 2010 January 28. Retrieved from

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