“You can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family.” We have all heard this saying before and we know it’s true. Unfortunately, this is often quoted when there is some kind of discrepancy between family members.
We have the opportunity to make choices every day of our life. Some are simple choices, coffee, or tea? Which color suit should I wear? Do I want to sleep in this Saturday morning?
It’s not always so easy
Other choices may have more severe consequences. Quitting a job, leaving a relationship, continuing to participate in potentially dangerous behaviors. These types of choices can have devastating effects on our lives and the people around us and should be thought out carefully before committing to them.
Life has a way of throwing us a curve ball every now and again. No matter how secure, or confident we may feel about ourselves, sometimes an event that occurs has the power to turn a perfectly good day into a trip through hell.
It really is up to you
But it really doesn’t have to be like that. How we handle the unforeseen problems, either real or imagined, can make the difference on whether we stress out, or cruise comfortably through the day.
“Misery loves company.” This familiar was said to have been written by the English botanist and naturalist John Ray (1627–1705). I believe that this sentiment still holds true today.
Negative people suck
How many negative people do you know? Constantly complaining about how unfair life is, how the system is rigged, and confident that the world is going down the toilet.
You only get one family in life. Yes, you may marry into one, your team mates, whether on a playing field, or at the office may feel like family, but you and other members of your family share a genetic bond that can never be duplicated.
I’ve heard people complain about how messed up their family is, and unfortunately, sometimes they truly are. But I’ll let you in on a little secret, everyone’s family is dysfunctional to at least some degree.