All too often the spouse who had the affair wants to “move on” once everything is out in the open, but for the betrayed spouse, the hurt continues on whether they want it to or not. “Moving on” isn’t even an option especially in the early stages after D-Day.
However, a couple could still rebuild trust and love. The degree and period of recovery are largely affected by the behaviors of the cheater. However, a lot of cheaters don’t understand the emotions of their partners and don’t have any idea of the things they need to do to rebuild trust.