How long has it been since DDay? A few weeks, months or even a couple of years? The most important thing is that you and your wayward spouse have decided to reconcile because you still love each other and you feel your marriage is worth saving, so you’re going through the whole recovering from an affair process. Yet, despite your husband’s best efforts to make amends, you are still struggling to overcome the hurt and feel like he just does not get it on the level you need him to be on.
It hurts to think that your husband would violate your marriage vows for another woman, but violate it he did. This is not an easy thing to accept and it can be an especially bitter pill to swallow if you were under the impression that your marriage was good. The steps you take after his adultery can mean the difference between healing and rebuilding or growing bitter and resentful as the years go by.
Doing these five things will help you focus on healing and ideally reconciliation with your husband.
One of the most frustrating issue you face after the disclosure of your husband’s affair is getting him to open up and talk about the affair with you. There are certain things that you feel you ought to know in order for you to sort things out and begin to heal, but your attempts at discussion are being stymied. Generally speaking, it’s not that he feels you don’t have the right to know the details, rather it usually is because he finds it uncomfortable to do so or he wants to pretend the affair never happened.