Your husband cheated on you.
And with that one act you are left in a puddle of unhappiness and seemingly never-ending misery.
The affair has cost you plenty, in terms of:
Negative and obsessive thoughts.
Roller-coaster emotions
Haunting images of the two of them together
Feeling tense and anxious all the time
Your self-esteem is demolished
You feel unworthy and insecure
You’ve heard the myth.
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
And that goes over and over through your mind as you make a decision to try to get over his affair and move on staying married to your spouse.
While an affair is certainly heart breaking, if you take the time to learn about the facts you’ll see that it does not really have to spell the end of your marriage.
Rebuilding your marriage after an affair isn’t any chancier than deciding to end your marriage and start anew with someone else.
If your husband had the ability to anesthetize you so that you could not move, but you would still feel pain, and then cut your flesh over and over again, you think you would not be in as much pain as you are right now due to your husband’s affair.
Your heart is bleeding.
And you feel completely lost and broken.
You don’t feel as if you can ever get over the betrayal.
Are the disturbing images of your husband with his lover haunting you?
Do you find yourself visually imagining your husband being with his lover, over and over again.
Learning that your husband has cheated on you can leave you feeling desperately unhappy, lonely and yearning for simpler times.
A happily married couple shares extraordinary intimacy, both physical and mental. But in the aftermath of his betrayal, you find yourself plagued with visual images of the affair that haunt you day and night.
Obviously, you need to find a way to stop obsessively imagining how it was when your husband took his lover in his arms. That way lies madness.
How long has it been since DDay? A few weeks, months or even a couple of years? The most important thing is that you and your wayward spouse have decided to reconcile because you still love each other and you feel your marriage is worth saving, so you’re going through the whole recovering from an affair process. Yet, despite your husband’s best efforts to make amends, you are still struggling to overcome the hurt and feel like he just does not get it on the level you need him to be on.