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Help Dealing With Infidelity: What to do When You Can’t Stop Thinking About It

Once you’ve been the victim of infidelity the thoughts can sometimes become so overwhelming that you find it hard to stop thinking about it.

It doesn’t seem to matter what you’re doing, working, playing, just living your life takes on a whole new meaning when the intrusive thoughts of the infidelity niggle at your mind every second of the day.

When thoughts circle in your mind over and over again it can be very unhealthy. After all, there really is nothing you can do to change what has happened.

Continuously thinking about it isn’t going to help and in fact is just going to make you more obsessed. It’s really easy to become obsessed.

Journaling For Self Healing After His Affair: 9 Ideas to Get You Started

Keeping a journal is a great way to write down how you feel about certain events in your life. It enables you to look back to what happened to you, how you felt about it, and how you will overcome.

As you describe what happened, it gives you time to reflect, take a deep breath and provide valuable insight into your life that other methods don’t.

Journals are great for processing your feelings. Things are always a little clearer when we get them out of our heads and down on paper. Everything is a little more objective and realistic. You might be surprised at what you figure out about yourself if you take the time to keep a journal.

Obsessed With Comparing Yourself to The Other Woman? Six Reasons Why it is Time to Stop

Amongst the wreckage and aftermath of an affair, there are many processes that many women like yourself go through before they are able to reach a place of healing.

One of these processes is an unfortunate phase of uncertainty and dangerously low self-esteem.

During this phase, many women begin to compare themselves to the other woman. They think about the other woman almost as much, if not more, than their adulterous husband.

Is she prettier than me? Was she better in bed? Did she make him happier than I do? Is she thinner/taller/fitter/sexier than I am?

Healthy Self-esteem Is Essential For Affair Recovery: Read This to Find Out Why

If there is one certainty in the aftermath of an affair, it is that it can tear down your self-esteem.

After the time, love, and trust that you have put into your husband and your relationship with him, a betrayal such as this can make you feel small, uncertain, and worthless.

In the blink of one thoughtless act, your whole world feels like it is crumbling down around you.

Your self-esteem is essential to every aspect of affair recovery. It is essential for you to move forward with your own life, and it is essential if you ever hope to rebuild and recover after your husband’s affair. Especially if you hope to have a healthy and happy relationship with your husband after the affair, you will need a healthy self-esteem to keep the relationship going. In fact, it may be one of the single most important parts of being able to move on.

Don’t Do These 12 Things When You’re Trying to Get Him to Stop The Affair

You’ve discovered that your husband is having an affair and you want to save your marriage. But your first thoughts and reactions come fast and furious and you’re not sure what to do. While there are many things you can do to save your marriage after an affair, these 12 things will not work.