Infidelity is an old story you’ve heard told far too many times, but that doesn’t make it any less painful when it happens to you. It usually goes something like this. A seemingly happily married couple is navigating their life together when they’re suddenly rocked by the husband’s extramarital affair.
You want to find a way to trust him again, but giving that trust back is proving to be very hard.
How can you give your heart over to him again after you’ve been hurt so baldly?
And what if he betrays you again?
Restoring trust in a relationship after infidelity has torn it apart is an uphill battle. Trust is not blind faith, it is something that has to be earned over time. But once that trust is broken or destroyed, it must be earned back once again.
Just because your spouse didn’t have sex with someone doesn’t mean their affair isn’t just as painful.
There are many kinds of affairs, and in some ways an emotional affair can be even worse than a sexual dalliance.
Because the emotions that you share with someone you love are often even more important than the physical connection that people having “just” sex experience.
Don’t let anyone tell you that your husband’s emotional affair isn’t just as painful and hard to deal with as someone’s physical affair.
The point is your spouse still shared things with someone else that was supposed to be reserved only for the special relationship between a husband and a wife.
Once you’ve been the victim of infidelity the thoughts can sometimes become so overwhelming that you find it hard to stop thinking about it.
It doesn’t seem to matter what you’re doing, working, playing, just living your life takes on a whole new meaning when the intrusive thoughts of the infidelity niggle at your mind every second of the day.
When thoughts circle in your mind over and over again it can be very unhealthy. After all, there really is nothing you can do to change what has happened.
Continuously thinking about it isn’t going to help and in fact is just going to make you more obsessed. It’s really easy to become obsessed.