Infidelity is a painful and confusing territory, often prompting you, the betrayed spouse, to question: “Am I the one to blame?” I hope to provide understanding and comfort in this storm of emotions and thoughts.
You just found out he cheated and you’re devastated.
You have endless questions about why, and a barrage of self-sabotaging thoughts that spin around in your mind.
You find yourself rubbing the center of your chest.
Your shattered heart is making it hard to breathe and the shame is overwhelming.
First I want you to know, there’s nothing wrong with you. You are not to blame.
So, he cheated on you. Now you are wondering whether he will change.
According to a major study which was conducted in North America and Europe, some people can change, whereas others can’t change (and never will). Also, some behaviors can be changed, but other behaviors can’t be changed at all. Now please let me explain.
You are not alone.
According to the National Health and Social Life Survey, 40% of married men, 16% of cohabiting men and 37% of dating men engaged in acts of sexual infidelity; by contrast, only 1% of married women, 8% of cohabiting women and 17% of women in dating relationships cheat on their partners.
Yes, you read that right. 40% of married men cheat on their wives (some wives just don’t know it & the statistics only include men who have admitted their affairs, so you can imagine how many men never admit their affairs).
Men are generally more likely to commit infidelity than women. So when a woman finds out her husband has cheated on her, it can be confusing and unexpected.
Discovering your husband has been unfaithful in your relationship can be hard to believe. But if you’ve found out your husband has cheated on you, there are steps you can take to work through the problem.
Your head is likely spinning with questions and you may be wondering what to think and how to react. If you’re looking for cheating advice, you have a few options on how to proceed.