It is never easy to find out that your partner has been unfaithful. It would seem that the hardest part is realizing that the signs were there, you just didn’t pay any attention to them.
When you find out you have an adulterous spouse the mess of conflicting emotions you’ll have are so enormous that many people describe it like a roller coaster, or being in a small boat on a rough sea. You’re going to feel unlike yourself for a while. It’s going to take time to move on from this because your trust has been broken, and you’ve been hurt in a bad way.
One of the most pervasive myths is that affairs only happen to bad marriages. This myth is perpetuated by all of us. We try to help people learn how to recover from an affair and get their marriages back on track and sometimes people take the advice as if that means something was wrong with them and that’s why their husband or wife cheated.
While sometimes affairs can be a sign that something was deeply wrong with the marriage, sometimes a cheating incident has nothing whatsoever to do with the marriage or the victim. Sometimes people in happy marriages cheat. They do it because it’s just easier today to get away with it and find someone to cheat with. It may have seemed exciting at that moment, but probably empty later.
Many people who are going through infidelity think that they’ll never survive the ordeal. But, healing from cheating is entirely possible if you know where to place your efforts. If you follow these 7 steps, and really put everything you have into it because your marriage means that much to you, then healing from infidelity will happen and your marriage might even come out stronger than ever.
One of the hardest things you may ever do is find it within yourself to forgive your spouse after they cheat on you. But realize that the act of forgiveness is something that will make your life better and has nothing to do with the other person. Forgiving your spouse can be a very difficult thing to do, but it is beneficial for you in order to heal from the trauma and move on with your life with or without your partner.
But forgiving often proves to be more challenging than you think! Offering forgiveness is a worthwhile feat. Forgiveness builds you up!