You have just found out your partner has been cheating on you and you feel like your world is spinning out of control. Disbelief, betrayal, anger, fear and sadness are the emotions you feel on a daily basis, and all seems lost.
I have some good news for you though, this too shall pass and things will get better, regardless of how bleak everything seems right now.
Here are 19 ways to help you recover from an affair and move on in your life:
Wondering why some couples stay together and others split up after cheating happens?
Here, you’ll learn why an affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship…in fact, surviving infidelity together can actually make it stronger.
It all depends on how you and your partner approach the aftermath of a devastating affair. It’s not hard to see why most of us can’t see an upside to cheating when it comes to the health of a relationship.
It’s so hard to know what to do if your spouse cheats and repercussions happen that affect the children. Whether it is a period of separation, or emotional trauma happening in the household, or worse, a divorce – the kids end up being affected. You can lessen the trauma on the kids if you know what to say to them.
Here’s what you need to know in order to decide whether or not to tell the kids about the affair.
Once you’ve been the victim of infidelity the thoughts can sometimes become so overwhelming that you find it hard to stop thinking about it.
It doesn’t seem to matter what you’re doing, working, playing, just living your life takes on a whole new meaning when the intrusive thoughts of the infidelity niggle at your mind every second of the day.
When thoughts circle in your mind over and over again it can be very unhealthy. After all, there really is nothing you can do to change what has happened.
Continuously thinking about it isn’t going to help and in fact is just going to make you more obsessed. It’s really easy to become obsessed.
Before infidelity entered your life it’s more than likely that you typically controlled your feelings in public.
Now that you’re experiencing the shock and pain of betrayal, you might find it hard to do normal things like shop for groceries and work.
Being around others might elicit feelings that you never thought you had.
The simplest greeting can send you into rage, despair, and other emotions that aren’t very productive. Working through these feelings will become an important part of your life for the next few months.