Whether you’re the cheater or the one cheated on, you can emerge victorious from the ruins of a marriage wrecked by infidelity. From where you are standing right now the situation may appear hopeless, but just as others have healed from the damage the affair wroth and rebuilt their relationship after cheating, you can too. But burying your head in the sand and hoping for the best is not going to cut it, you need to take action and the sooner the better.
You have lots of options to help you fix your marriage after the affair, from traditional marriage counseling to books and online self-help programs. Finding the right option that’s best for you can mean the difference between prolonging the agony and suffering or saving your relationship. Ideally you want to choose a program/book that gives you the best chance of dealing with the heartache of infidelity.
In this article I’m going to take a look at two very popular affair recovery programs. Let me say that I’m not a therapist or expert on infidelity, but my ex cheated on me multiple times so I was once standing where you are right now. From my personal experience I know that not all relationships can be saved after adultery. To up your chances, you should make sure that any help you get is tested and proven to work. Both of the programs that I’m going to compare for you meet this criteria.
What is the Promise of These Programs?
The two programs are “How to Survive an Affair by Dr Frank Gunzburg” and “Break Free From the Affair by Dr. Bob Huizenga,” you can click on the links to read my detailed review of each program. They each approach the subject from different perspectives.
Both books are written by experts in their field; Dr. Bob Huizenga brings his two decades plus of experience, study and research as a therapist to provide a wealth of in-depth and solid information to help you break free from the affair.
While Dr Frank Gunzburg who has spent three decades specializing in marriage counseling and fighting in the trenches alongside couples who are desperate to save their marriages after affairs, combined his research and methods into his program.
The main purpose of Break Free From the Affair is to get you started in the right direction and to begin acting now on significant, well-thought-out, time-tested strategies.
The main purpose of How to Survive an Affair is to give you a roadmap or step-by-step system that will help you achieve individual healing and a restored relationship.
Key Takeaways From Each Program
Break Free From the Affair by Dr. Bob Huizenga
The main guide that comes with Break Free From the Affair is 89 pages. A significant portion of the book is focused on “identifying the type of affair facing you.” Then each type of affair is broken down in detail into seven sections like this example starting on page 20:
I Can‟t Say No
- Key Points
- Characteristics of the person who “can‟t say no”
- What can I expect will happen?
- Will they live happily ever after?
- What are the odds of saving the marriage?
- Do you really want to save the marriage?
- What you can specifically do to increase the odds of saving the marriage
This is very helpful because once you know what type of affair you are dealing with you can quickly get to the core of the issue(s) giving you a head start on moving through the affair with more knowledge and power.
Besides the main ebook, you also get additional bonus items including a 15-minute coaching session with Dr. Bob Huizenga (this is a limited time offer and may not be available by the time you read this article).
Coaching packages for those who really want to work through their marriage problems quickly and get back on the path to success. Packages range from one thirty minute coaching session to a two month coaching package with email support and correspondence
Or choose form three different program levels –
Each program comes with the foundation books, the main difference is that the “Silver Package” comes with some additional materials and the “Gold Package” includes one-on-one coaching with Dr. Huizenga.
Break Free From the Affair by Dr. Bob Huizenga is the ideal choice for you…
- If you prefer a less structured approach to rebuilding your relationship after cheating
- You need one-on-one coaching
- You want to create your own post affair healing program
How to Survive an Affair by Dr Frank Gunzburg
The main guide that comes with “How to Survive an Affair” is a whopping 178 pages, but don’t let that scare you. You don’t have to go through all of that information in one day! The guide is well laid out and structured in three phases. Dr Frank Gunzburg uses a very effective system, that is “doing the right things in the right order.”
You also get to listen in on the stories of two couples who have gone through what you are going through right now and have come through with a stronger relationship than they ever thought possible.
How to Survive an Affair shows couples how to repair their marriage in three steps or phases.
Phase One: Individual Healing – Understanding Personal Feelings and Sorting Through Your Emotions. This phase is for both the cheater and the person who was cheated on and it forces you to turn inward and focus on healing yourself before you focus on healing your relationship.
Phase Two: Healing as a Couple – Working Together to Identify and Resolve Key Issues. This is where both of you will work together to identify key issues and resolve them. The main focus of this phase is on helping you establish a healthy way to communicate with your partner. It’s hard work but Dr. Gunzburg guides you through it all.
Phase Three: Negotiating a Renewed Relationship – Understanding How to Build and Sustain a New Trust Filled Partnership. This is the rebuilding phase and it shows you how to trust each other again. As you know, trust is essential for a good marriage. By the time you are finished with this final phase of the program, you should be ready to move on with a new life together.
Another outstanding benefit of this program is the included: “Your Personal Healing Guide” workbook. This workbook is a way to deepen the work you started in the How to Survive an Affair book by helping you focus on your specific problems and how you can overcome those problems. It comes with a host of activities to assist you in the healing process.
How to Survive an Affair by Dr Frank Gunzburg is the ideal choice for you…
- If you prefer a more structured approach to healing
- You’re looking for a step-by-step easy to follow system
- You’re not interested in traditional marriage counseling
- You want the ability to work through the system on your own and at your own pace
In making your decision cost may be an important factor for you and while both of these programs are much less expensive than an hour of counseling, they still cost money. How to Survive an Affair is the more expensive of the two, costing $147 while Break Free From the Affair costs $49.95 (all prices are current at the time of this writing). Why the big difference in price? Break free is a more condensed version of Dr. Huizenga programs (the basic ebook is only 89 pages). However, he also offers additional programs that cost more. Survive an Affair is a more comprehensive program to start out with. So it really comes down to personal preferences and how much hand holding you need.
Which One is Right For You
Both of these programs are excellent and come with generous money-back guarantees, so there’s no risk to trying the program that feels right for you.. Of course your budget will play a role in your decision, but if you’re looking for a structured step-by-step system then How to Survive an Affair will work best for you. On the other hand, if you want to take a less structured approach and/or you’re on a tight budget, Break Free From the Affair is your best option.
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