Infidelity is an old story you’ve heard told far too many times, but that doesn’t make it any less painful when it happens to you. It usually goes something like this. A seemingly happily married couple is navigating their life together when they’re suddenly rocked by the husband’s extramarital affair.
You want to find a way to trust him again, but giving that trust back is proving to be very hard.
How can you give your heart over to him again after you’ve been hurt so baldly?
And what if he betrays you again?
Restoring trust in a relationship after infidelity has torn it apart is an uphill battle. Trust is not blind faith, it is something that has to be earned over time. But once that trust is broken or destroyed, it must be earned back once again.
Once you’ve been the victim of infidelity the thoughts can sometimes become so overwhelming that you find it hard to stop thinking about it.
It doesn’t seem to matter what you’re doing, working, playing, just living your life takes on a whole new meaning when the intrusive thoughts of the infidelity niggle at your mind every second of the day.
When thoughts circle in your mind over and over again it can be very unhealthy. After all, there really is nothing you can do to change what has happened.
Continuously thinking about it isn’t going to help and in fact is just going to make you more obsessed. It’s really easy to become obsessed.
Keeping a journal is a great way to write down how you feel about certain events in your life. It enables you to look back to what happened to you, how you felt about it, and how you will overcome.
As you describe what happened, it gives you time to reflect, take a deep breath and provide valuable insight into your life that other methods don’t.
Journals are great for processing your feelings. Things are always a little clearer when we get them out of our heads and down on paper. Everything is a little more objective and realistic. You might be surprised at what you figure out about yourself if you take the time to keep a journal.