9 Effective Ways to Personally Healing After an Affair

motivational affirmationsWhen a spouse cheats during a marriage it can feel like the entire earth is falling out from under you. It’s hard to know who to trust and what to do.

Your self-esteem takes a hit, and you feel completely out of control and like you will never be happy again.

The thing is, whether your marriage survives or not — you can recover and heal after an affair.

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How to Take Charge of Your Roller Coaster Emotions When Dealing With Infidelity

dealing with infidelityExperiencing infidelity is often compared to riding a very frightening roller coaster without a harness protecting you from injury.

Your emotions will go from up to down at the drop of a hat.

You’ll be enjoying a normal day when tears spring to your eyes or you feel red hot hatred for the spouse with whom you just shared a loving kiss.

These roller coaster emotions are actually normal to a point, but there are ways to take charge of them when dealing with infidelity.

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Why Me? Understanding a Cheating Spouse

cheating spouseWe can all imagine what it must be like to learn that your beloved spouse has had an affair – or we think we can.

It is not until you happen upon that passionate text message written to your husband or realize that your wife has not really been working late but has been spending evenings at a local hotel with a coworker that you know how you will react.

Learning that your spouse has been intimate with another is a crushing experience. It is not, however, one that you and your marriage cannot survive.

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I Hate My Cheating Spouse; How Resentment Will Eat You Alive

cheating spouse

Your spouse has had a sexual relationship with another human being – has been intimate with someone other than you.

Since learning about this cheating, you’ve been seething, stewing in what feels a lot like hate for the spouse you thought you loved.

You can barely keep your contempt to yourself; if you had a magic wand you would wave it and make your cheating spouse disappear. If this sounds at all like you, you need to change course pronto. Resentment will eat you alive.

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Can an Affair Ever be Helpful in a Marriage?

affair helpfulAre affairs a good thing for a marriage? That depends on which side of the coin you’re on. It certainly is helpful for the cheater who gets all the fun, excitement and their ego stoked, but it is definitely not helpful for the the marriage  nor the betrayed spouse who has to deal with all the emotional trauma that follows in the wake of an affair.

I know from firsthand experience that infidelity causes a lot of hurt and pain and can lead to divorce. While there are countless couples whose marriages were devastated by infidelity that went on to build a stronger relationship and a better marriage, it wasn’t because of the affair, but rather all the blood, sweat and tears that is involved in overcoming infidelity.

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